Managing Your Anger after your Breakup

Anger is one the most difficult emotions to deal with after a breakup as it drains all your energy, leaving you feeling totally exhausted with nothing left to focus on your healing. Anger can also be a useful emotion as it gets you out of the depression stage and acts as an outlet for some of your emotions.

Anger and resentments towards the person you once loved, your ex, can build quickly and if you do not manage it will get taken too far which causes embarrassment and a lot of extra unwanted stress shortly thereafter and this will only delay your healing process.

Some of the reasons why you may be angry

·       You might be angry because of what your ex did or said to you.

·       You might feel you didn’t deserve it

·       You might feel guilty about being angry

·       You feel you have wasted so much precious time and energy on your relationship

·       Your plans for your future with your ex has been destroyed

·       Your self confidence and self-esteem is severely damaged.

·       You might be angry because you now have some extra financial concerns

There could be many other reasons running through your mind but you do need to experience, feel and express it in a healthy way and then find ways to calm yourself down and ease your anger.

Ways to Manage Your Anger after your Breakup

1.     Acceptance

Accept that your anger is normal and is part of the emotional stages you go through with a breakup

                                                                                 

2.     Focus on Your Thoughts

-       Be honest with yourself about what you are feeling and make sure that you are not suppressing your anger

-       Make sure that you are not judging yourself too harshly, that you are not taking all the blame for your failed relationship, just your part.

-       Focus on why are you so angry, is it things leading up to and including the breakup or is some of your anger coming from issues way back.

 

3.     Physical Activities

Intense physical activities can help give you the tools you need to learn how to deal with your anger. Go for a good run, bike ride or go to the gym. If you want something more calming and relaxing then go for a walk or do something, like yoga, these can all help with releasing some anger and getting some balance in your life.

4.     Positive Thinking

Learn to control your thinking, which takes some time and practise, I have always believed that our minds are such a powerful part of who we are, if you are thinking about positive things then you will feel more positive, in other words what you think is what you feel. If you can learn to change the negative thoughts into more positive, you will start to feel a whole lot better.

The famous saying of “You can do anything and achieve anything, if you put your mind to it”

5. Talk to Somebody.

Our friends and family are our support system, no matter how close they are to you, they do not want to see us in any more pain than what we already are, so they try not to upset us and agree with everything we do and say. This is not always a good thing.
What we need at this stage in our process is to work through our emotions and feelings honestly and make good choices. We need some-one that is a neutral observer and can help steer us in the right direction. This person could be a not so close friend or a professional.

Something that I do all the time, which I find helps, when I am completely alone I talk to myself out loud, there is something about hearing your feelings out loud that seems to calm me down and help clear up some of my thoughts.

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