First Date with your Ex

You have both agreed to go on a first date after your breakup to see how things go and figure out if you should get back together, this will be a really important decision and your future rides on what happens but now the nerves have set in and you are not sure of what to do and what to say.

Good things come from good preparation like you would do if you knew you were going to see your ex during your no contact for a prior engagement that you could not get out of. The only difference this time is that you actually going to spend some time together

So how do you plan for your first date?

1.     Improving your physical appearance 

Everyone, whether you a man or a women like to dress up and look good to go out on a new date, this will be no different even though your ex-has known you for some time, it always gives a good impression if you have made some sort of effort, whether it is losing some weight, a new hairstyle or some nice new clothes.

Although appearance is not the most important aspect of the first date, it will be noticed.

2.     Showing that you have grown emotionally

A breakup happens for a reason which is rarely anything to do with your appearance but more to do with your emotions and actions, how do you make each other feel, based on your attitude, the way of thinking and behavior.

It will not help to be overly nice and agree with every demand they make in the hopes of them taking pity on you and will give you another chance. It makes you look weak and desperate; you will just lose their respect even more.

What should you do?

·       Take control of the conversation in a calm manner, it shows confidence

·       Gently calm your ex as you want them to feel calm and relaxed in your presence,

·       Do not focus on all the negatives of your relationship and why you broke up

3.     Focus on keeping the conversation light-hearted

Having the opportunity for the first time to actually sit and talk to your ex, is tempting to want to talk about what happened between the two of you, but don’t, this will open up the wounds again.  If your ex is being very serious and cold, try to lighten things up a bit by responding to something they have said with a light-hearted joke, something that will make them smile or laugh.
Don’t sit telling jokes the whole time, you are just trying to get your ex to relax, laugh and have a little fun while feeling comfortable in your presence and it will become difficult for them to keep thinking about the past.

4.     Ending your First Date

As the date ends and it is time to go your separate ways again, give your ex a good warm hug goodbye, it might feel a little awkward, but it is an indirect way of showing each other that you are interested in the next step.
Follow the date up with a phone call to either have a friendly conversation or to plan the next get together.

If you are looking for some more help and guidance on knowing exactly what to say and what to do to get your ex back on a First date. The Magic Of Making Up System will show you how.