Tips on what to do to get the love of your life back

Trying to get the love of your life back, if we do not give ourselves a chance to calm down and think things through can make us do some crazy things which will ruin any chances we have of getting them back

      First agree with your partner that it is necessary for a break up

Once those dreaded heart stabbing words of breakup have been said and whether your first reaction was to scream and perform like a crazy person or shut down and walk away, calm yourself down and go to your partner and politely agree to the breakup.

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     Give each other some space

As much as it hurts right now and all you want to do is beg, plead and hold on to your partner for dear life, the best thing to do right now is to walk away and give each other some space as you both need some time to get your emotions under control and process the situation.

·       Take the time to identify why you really split up in the first place

Use this time to identify what went wrong, what caused the breakup. You really need to dig deep and figure out what was your part in it all and own it.  Don’t blame and judge your ex or yourself, just be aware of what happened and what caused it and take responsibility for your part.

After all there is always two sides to a story. Your side and your ex's side.

Your next step would be to do some more soul searching and really make sure that you want to get back together with your ex for the right reasons.  Which would be something like, you truly believe that they are the only one for you and it is not because you do not want to leave a familiar place or your comfort zone and are scared to be alone, or you are worried what friends and family might say.

Have a clear plan of what you will say to them if you see them again, do not rush in as panic will take over and all the wrong things will be said and done and they will just become defensive, angry and arguments will flare up and things will get really nasty.

·       Find a way of showing your ex partner that you have reflected on why the relationship ended

Start with a hand written letter that is positive and non-threatening, maybe saying something like you understand how they are feeling and if they feel up to it that it would be really nice if the two of you could get together and talk and send it off to them. Do not expect or pressure them for an immediate response as they will need time to process it and decide for themselves if they are ready to take that step.

Give them a couple of weeks and maybe send them another hand written letter, while still being positive and friendly asking them if they received your first letter and if they considered meeting up with you.

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      Take time for yourself, and do things that you enjoy

In the mean time take the time for yourself, and do things that you enjoy, stay positive which will improve your confidence and self-esteem




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