Breaking Up the Right Way

Hopefully you have taken the time to really think things through, you have a plan and have figured out your own feelings and have made the decision if you really do want to leave your relationship and the reasons why. If your mind is still made up that it is time to go, the only thing now is How are you going to break the news?

Ending a relationship is one of the hardest things to do. If done the right way will show that you are not a coward, you have a backbone and are a decent and mature person with a heart.

Guideline of how to go about breaking up with someone the right way

Breakup in Person

Breaking up in person is the right thing to do, after all you once loved each other and have spend part of your life together whether it was for a couple of months or a couple of years, it should not matter.

You do need to show them a little respect by breaking up in person as it gives you and them a chance to have a meaningful discussion, to ask and answer questions that may come up in the moment and once done you will be able to hold your head high knowing that you treated them with respect.

Choose a private and quiet place

This is a very emotional time in both your lives so it is important for you to choose a private and quiet place where you both feel comfortable and there are no distractions, so that you can really talk to each other. Avoid coffee shops, restaurants and even romantic spots.

Explain Your Reasons

It is important to be as calm, honest, open and to the point as possible while talking about your true feelings without being nasty while you explain your reasons for wanting to end your relationship. You can soften the blow slightly by choosing your wording carefully to not insult or blame them.

If you do want to mention their wrong doings in the relationship, you should prepare yourself to receive it back without getting defensive or angry.

Once you are done expressing your feelings, It is important to give your partner the time to express their feelings, while you just listen as it will give you both a chance to say what needs to be said  and will make moving on a little easier.

Do not Blame them for everything

The last thing you want to do is sit there blame, criticize and insult them for everything that went wrong in the relationship. This will not be helpful at all as it will just start a screaming match between the two of you which will get you nowhere.

Discuss important details

If you have been living together, you will need to discuss important details about who is moving out, how to split up the household goods, if you have bills together, how will they be split up. So it is important to leave on good terms.

Breaking up with your partner should be done the right way by really thinking things through, making sure that you really want to leave the relationship, the reasons why and in person.